Navigating Leadership Transitions

THE LAST FEW MONTHS  HAVE BEEN INCREDIBLY TRYING MOMENTS OF MY SOUL. In the midst of one of the most difficult seasons for me personally, many of the people whom I have dearly loved in our ministry have “thrown in the towel” and left our ministry leadership team.

I take it personally. Maybe I shouldn’t. Maybe I need to keep people at arms length. But I can’t. I’m just not wired that way.

My leadership team is my ministry FAMILY. When someone leaves (out of character issues, or “its just time to move on”) I cannot help but feel deeply wounded at their departure; like something has torn loose in my HEART.

I RECENTLY CAME ACROSS THE FOLLOWING THOUGHT-PROVOKING STATEMENT FROM TD JAKES ON THIS TOPIC:
“If we are to avoid disappointment as pastors, we must adjust our expectations to the reality rather than the IDEAL of ministry. Idealistically, we think we have found a place of fulfillment in the pastorate. Idealistically, we believe if we lay down our lives for the sheep, we will be applauded. The truth is, the shepherd is only a steward of the sheep. The sheep are being reared for a purpose – and that purpose is neither camaraderie nor friendship. The flock will not give you a sense of family. If you expect that, then you will end up feeling betrayed. They will not give you intimacy or affection. They will take from your scarred and bleeding hands direction without affection, guidance without commitment…”

Somewhat discouraging? Yes. But it is this last line of Jakes’ statement that gives me hope:

“…Only those who make the transition from SHEEP to DISCIPLES begin to feel any level of loyalty – and that is the direct result of discipline.”

Not EVERYONE is called to be a long-term member of your flock. Some God has called only for a temporary season. When it is time, they WILL leave.

Most of the time YOU can’t change them… They are who they are – Sheep or Disciples. Our job as leaders is not to mourn over the ones who go, but to SEEK OUT the ones who desire to be disciples and offer them opportunities to take up spiritual ownership in the ministry.

If you are going to be an effective shepherd, pastor, or spiritual leader, you must be able to differentiate between the two. If you confuse the makeup of you flock, it will only lead to DISCOURAGEMENT and feelings of inadequacy as a pastor and leader.

“So Others May Live” ::Friday Night at Coram Deo 09

It is almost 1:30a, Saturday, June 6th. I had hoped to go to bed and forget the nagging reminder to blog this, but I have been unable to shake this moment. I am beyond any accumulation of words to describe what God has done at our Coram Deo camp so far. I am simply soaking up the memories of what God did tonight. Thank you Jesus that all of the work, discussion design, late nights editing video, moments wrestling with God over direction, and frustration with trying to coordinate such a grand event have paid off. I am exhausted to be sure… In the last 33 hours, I have slept 2 of them.

But in this spiritually soaked stupor of contentment, I am reminded of one of my all-time favorite quotes of history. Vince Lombardi, an incredible visionary coach once said to his team, “I firmly believe that any man’s finest hour – his greatest fulfillment to all he holds dear – is that moment when he has worked is heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle – victorious.”

Thank you Jesus, that we are being victorious. I have nothing but gratefulness, joy, and delight overwhelming my soul at this moment. Living off of nothing but Mountain Dews (and the food my INCREDIBLE armor-bearer Lori Fox has brought me), I have seen God move in such sweet, sovereign healing ways tonight.

Allow me to jump briefly back to the planning stages of this camp… I honestly didn’t know if we would ever be able to break even on our numbers to pay our contract with the camp. We began this registration journey over 8 weeks ago and were setting a goal of 80-90 people. In my heart I really wanted to see over 100, but I thought I might want to rein this in due to the reality and challenges of our current economy. As each week crawled closer to our big week, the students sign ups continued to roll in again and again, eventually even exceeding my “high goals.” We had to reset our T shirt count 3 times, had to reorder tokens, and have still gone over the top with our turnout. I don’t want to give this number as a sign of achievement, because at the end of the day, it is NOT about the numbers, but about the life change, but… by the grace of God we have almost 160 people with us at camp. God is good.

As always, our Rap Groups were top notch. Our services have flowed well. Worship has been great. And God has showed up in wonderful ways. But tonight was just unreal. I desperately wanted to connect my kids with the idea of sacrificing our lives SO OTHERS CAN LIVE. Stepping out on somewhat of a risk, I opted NOT to speak tonight, but to instead play a video. I spent several hours editing down the movie “The Guardian.” I used the scenes and dialogue of the movie to build my spiritual case. As the finale of the night nearer, God said, “Not that way.” With only moments before I was to step up and bring us into a time of focused prayer at the altar, God changed everything.

At that moment, you could just feel the presence of God in our little chapel. It was so think and sweet. You could sense such a powerful move of God upon us as many of the students were not only in tears, but their sobs could be heard through the room. As I took the stage and turned, I saw countless figures hunched over, move by the healing work of God, actively in pursuit of them. We took a few moments to make sure God was leading, and then changed our service direction to match.

I can still hear the David Crowder song playing as we closed with… “Never Let Go.” I just talked briefly through an understanding that no matter WHAT happens to you, no matter what you have done, no matter where you are at with God, no matter if you life has turned out the way you expected or not, no matter if you have let go of God, GOD WILL NEVER LET YOU GO OF YOU.

The response was nothing short of amazing. Students praying for students. Tears. Healing words. Holy Spirit comfort. A room full of orange Glowsticks for Jesus. Conversations about important things. Lives changed. Restoration. Release. Freedom. New Life. Lifted Burdens. New Commitments. Released guilt and shame. One sovereign move of God.

Over an hour after the “altar call” time had begun, as things we beginning to wind down, someone said to me, “Hey, good job tonight. It was awesome.” That is when I realized… I didn’t feel responsible or feel that I could TAKE responsibility for ANYTHING that took place at the altars because I hadn’t anticipated it. My plans were in a different direction entirely. God had orchestrated this response completely… I had simply listened. SO… I guess YES, I will take full responsibility for listening. To God, I give the rest of the props.

I’m just lying on the field of battle…